Community Guidelines

The rules of the table. Short, because gentlemen don’t need many.

1. Charity first

We are a Catholic brotherhood. Argue hard, love harder. Steel-man the other fellow’s position before you dismantle it. The goal of discourse is truth, not victory.

2. Class is the uniform

Dress like you mean it, speak like your mother is listening, and leave every venue better than you found it. “Business casual: think Charles Tyrwhitt, not gym wear” is a lifestyle, not just a dropdown option.

3. 21+, always

No exceptions, no “he’s almost 21.” Hosts turn away anyone underage, kindly and firmly.

4. Hosts own their table

The host supplies cigars and sets the house rules; guests respect both. The platform sells no tobacco and takes no cut of anything at your gathering.

5. Discretion

What a brother shares at the table stays at the table. Don’t photograph men without asking. Private gatherings are private.

6. No commerce at the flame

Gatherings are for fraternity, not sales funnels. No pitching products, MLMs, or fundraising without the host’s explicit blessing.

7. Keep the flame worthy

Harassment, bigotry, or behavior unbecoming a gentleman gets you removed from the app and the table. We’d rather be small and excellent than large and low.